Everything you Dream of is Within your Reach

Some of the things I don’t know…

I don’t know who you are. I don’t know your path. I don’t know where you came from and where you’re going. I don’t know your life, your relationships and I have no idea what relationship you have with yourself.

I don’t know your thoughts, your feelings, your approach to life and yourself.

BUT – what I do know is that you want to see change happen this year. Are you ready to MAKE it happen?

It’s January 2015 and everyone, at some level of detail, has been planning for 2015 and beyond. Everyone wants something. So you might have a detailed view of life that you dream of or maybe your vision is broad. Nevertheless within the next 12 months your life is going to change.

Where we’re going

The Pendulum Summit held in Dublin on the 9th of January was fantastic! By attending an event like that, I expect to feel motivated, inspired and to walk away with new ideas. I wanted to hear knowledgeable speakers answer some of the questions that are on my mind around life and business. Going to the Pendulum Summit this year I also wanted to hear new and current ideas. The world evolves and so as coaches we have to adapt. So I wanted to find a new direction for 2015 and the speakers at Pendulum Summit simply assured me that what I thought was going to be the focus of 2015, really is. What’s the focus?

People!

This year is going to be all about people.

How does that make you feel? Are you excited at the idea of creating more personal connections or is there more that has to happen for you before you are ready to invest in more purposeful relationships?

We need each other

You need support. We all need it.

No one can achieve any goals without other people. The apparent success of one person, always has a group of people behind it. It matters who is close to you to on your path to success.

Those around you help in variety of different ways. Usually they form what we describe as a support system. They are those who motivate and inspire us. These people remind us of our goals when we lose focus. You can purposefully choose this group based on the type of help you need.

Keath Ferrazzi at Pendulum Summit described them as “Lifelines” that we should carefully choose and keep in contact with. He talked about having at least 3 “Lifelines” educated about your goal and informed about progress every day. Your lifelines are those among your friends, colleagues or family members that are and can be the most honest with you and can tell you the truth when required.

He suggested that in order to succeed we must create a RAP – a Relationship Action Plan – for 2015 to enable stronger bonds, better support and meaningful connections.

That sounds fantastic and our support systems are clearly an important element of the RAP for 2015. However my inquisitive mind didn’t stop there. So I asked myself: “What else is possible?”

Here is one of my ideas.

Everything is possible

I am here with an important message for you – “Everything is possible!” Regardless of your own self-belief, or in spite of it, regardless of your belief in the power that you have over your destiny, everything is possible. Regardless of how strongly you believe in your own ability to actually go and do exactly what needs to be done to turn your New Year’s Resolutions into reality. Everything you dream of is within your reach.

People Worth Watching

So can you remember specifically what goals you achieved in 2014 that you are most proud of?

Can you talk about them with real confidence? Can you describe exactly what you did to make them happen?

Try and listen to your language. Notice every time you diminish and take the power away from your amazing achievements. Hear what you say and who you give credit to for your successes. Is it luck, your relatives, maybe circumstances? Does your thinking motivate you to achieve more in 2015?

If not, here is an idea. At the start of this New Year we encourage you to look closer at your mental models and beliefs. Find solid evidence of your achievements from the previous year and use them to support your thinking. Challenge the way you usually think about them and spend time identifying skills, an approach and abilities that enabled you to achieve success. Make a list and let yourself be impressed by your own greatness. Seriously, you made it happen!

What next?

Look around and ask other people about their successes and achievements in 2014 and help them identify exactly what personality traits and actions contributed to their accomplishments. Let them inspire you and become your role models.

With this awareness you can surround yourself with mentors and heroes. Choose people who possess skills you admire, who have the knowledge that you need to achieve your goals in 2015, who believe in themselves in the same way that you want to.  Take their advice and help on the best approach to your plans in 2015. Potentially they’ve already been there and they have successfully walked the path you are at the beginning of.

But don’t stop there. You can be a role model for somebody else. Offer your expertise and give back. Become a role model for someone whose goals are similar to your objectives from previous years. This will help you understand the value that you can bring and support your beliefs system in a brand new way.

Be purposeful with you choices of relationships in 2015. Make a plan and understand whose input is necessary for your success. Exchange and share wisdom, ideas and knowledge.

Are there any other ways in which you can get and give this year? What else can you do to appreciate people and be appreciated? Let us know in comments.