“Finding Happiness”. Seriously !???

“Finding Happiness”
Seriously !???

Frequently I come across the term “Finding Happiness” and it never really fits with my somewhat literal way of thinking. My inquisitive mind asks “Have I lost happiness?’ and if so, “Where did I lose it?” and “Where will I look for it?”

Is it in the back of my wardrobe or under the pile of books in my office, or did my Happiness decide it needed a break and headed off on a Caribbean cruise without me??

Okay, so this literal interpretation of mine may be a bit pedantic yet when clients talk to me about wanting to find more happiness in their lives I question their choice of words and what it means to them. This always results in an interesting exploration about happiness and where they expect to find it.

Recently a client I was working with discovered that rather then trying to find happiness, she could start recognising happiness when she experienced it. Over time it became clear to her that she had never lost happiness, needed to find it or needed to find more happiness in her life. The problem was she had just stopped recognising the times, sometimes moments, when she was experiencing happiness.

Eureka!!

So if you’re trying to Find Happiness, call off the search, and practice recognising, acknowledging, enjoying and appreciating happiness when it happens.