If You Don’t Ask The Answer Is Always No

“If you don’t ask the answer is always No”

Most of the time I am grateful that people can’t read my thoughts. Sometimes I guess I wish things could just happen out of someone else’s – “I had a feeling that you needed…”

The reality is that hoping and wanting bring us nowhere and that’s the truth. They have to be accompanied by real action for real progress to happen. No one out there will read my mind to create right in front of me the opportunities that I am waiting for.

“Ask for what you want and be prepared to get it”

Maya Angelou

Sometimes we don’t ask because we are not sure if we want to hear “Yes”. Surprised? Depending on a situation the possibility of hearing “Yes” is potentially as high as “No”. So what if they say “Yes”? There seems to be a level of readiness needed, real understanding of what this “Yes” means and awareness of the next steps that will be required. Have you got the  courage to hear “Yes”, to realise that what you really wanted is happening? Are you brave enough to take on the life that you say you want for yourself?

Sometimes we sit in our “No” because it’s comfortable. That’s the truth. We can blame others for our lack of room to manoeuvre and it keeps us away… from hard work, the effort to stay confident, motivated but also away from failure. Sounds like a very secure place.

Remember that there is always another side to that story…

I learned that if I sit comfortably (lazily) in my “No” and I don’t bother asking any questions, getting involved, looking for opportunities or going out there. I do nothing therefore have no chances of succeeding, no ways to get better, develop or grow. I am safe in my “No”, but is being safe the best we want to get from life?

 2014 is the year of ownership.

Can you feel it? Owning your true self with everything you do have to offer and what you don’t. Being real! It’s the year of showing up in your own life to be authentic and write your own story. So if you really want it, go after it. Go and ask because if you don’t, the answer will always be “NO”.

And one more thing worth considering this year – When have you last been brave enough to ask yourself the most important questions about your own life? Are you ready to hear “Yes”?

Author : Joanna Sobczak, PSG