“Wealth is not about having a lot of money; it’s about having a lot of options.” – Chris Rock
There was a great a caption I saw this week saying “Dress for your actual body shape – not the one you think you have !”.
It got me thinking about how we view ourselves.
Does the view you have of yourself restrict or expand your opportunities?
Working with a client recently I happened to mention how stylish she always appears to be. Not just well groomed but the complete look from top to toe. I had asked her where she does her shopping (hoping the style might rub off on me too!). She gave me a great tip – she said she goes in to shops and takes a couple of outfits she knows would suit her – and then always chooses a couple of extra that she would not normally choose and try’s them all on. Over the years, to her surprise, she said she often finds one of the extra outfits really suits her and that keeps her wardrobe fresh, updated and exciting for her.
What a great tip – I’ll definitely be trying that out the next time I hit the shops
It did however remind me of the most powerful set of questions in coaching that we use.
“What else?”, ” And what else?”, “Great and what else?”
When you are thinking about what your options are – don’t stop with the normal fit – go try some other options on for size – you won’t know if it suits you ‘til you try it on.
To start with, it helps when you take a good look in a mirror – reflect on what’s real and what’s not. How much can you actually see in a mirror though?
What works best is to get a second opinion – talk it out with someone you trust to be honest with you – not someone who’ll just say ‘”that’s grand” because they think that’s what you want to hear . Someone who can bring awareness to your blind spots – the stuff you can’t see – the full picture. Someone who will challenge what is seen to make sure you are not looking through an overly positive or overly negative lens.
Once the talking is over and you make a decision, take conscious, deliberate actions to get the results you want. After all, actions speak louder than words.
Look at your options, take action and get results.
Actions Speak Louder Than Words
It’s not what you say, it’s the things
you do, that makes someone feel
confident in you.
Nice words all of us like to hear.
But actions speak louder than words I fear.
Words, how easy they are to say.
For some, it’s all they can show.
As for me, I prefer the silent type,
by their actions, they’re sure to
let you know.
Those of you, who feel listening to
nice words is quite important.
At some point, I’d have to agree.
However, to be able to show how
you feel by your actions, well now….
that speaks louder to me!
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